Motherhood In Focus: Jehan Giles

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What I love about being alive in 2018 is that we get to be part of a society that talks. We talk about our experiences, our highs, our lows, our woes and wins. We share through social media posts or blogs or Instagram stories or sister circles. It’s a growth process that I feel is absolutely vital for mothering within this generation. This week, I check in with Jehan Giles, who I admire so much because she represents another example of what blended families can look like. She is the mother to David (3) and step-mother to Naima (5). Take a peak into her world below.

What was the first thing you did when you woke up this morning?

I wake up at 4:30 to ensure that I have time for myself. The first thing I do is get out of the bed right away so I don't wake up children who have wandered into the bed in the middle of the night. Once I get out of bed, I take my vitamins and drink 16oz of water. Sometimes I go to the gym, sometimes I read and take my time getting dressed before everyone else wakes up at 6:45.

Who is your parenting partner? Describe them.

I am so lucky to be able to copartner with not only my partner, but my stepdaughter's mom as well. My son adores her and he hates being away from his sister; she graciously helps with the parenting schedule and we take turns with school drop-offs, pick-ups and ensuring that the three of us are meeting our personal and professional goals. I know this isn't the norm and the kids' friends have questions, but hopefully we can change the narrative of adult relationships and coparenting.

Describe your discipline style. Have you ever spanked your child?

We are trying to positively parent. We don't hit our children and attempt to talk through their choices with them. Of course this is easier said than done, but I notice their vocabulary and vulnerability around decision making is greater than mine is as an adult sometimes because of this practice. My son will say, "I screamed because I was mad at you because you didn't let me have that and I was really upset." I hope that as he gets older his voice will grow and he will be able to rely on his vulnerability and honesty as he moves through frustrations.